Biggest lesson that life has taught

LIFE has taught me lessons too many to mention, therefore I will only list those that are imposed by the ill of society. Our aspirations that we foster as children are blown up to smithereens as we begin to age. From failure we learn humbleness and for success we learn that happiness was its sacrifice. The lessons we learn are not all reflective of our successes but deflective in our failure looking for that unseen fulfillment in which we elude ourselves in.

1. Silence is wisdom & wisdom is power. Ernest Psiachari, a French writer from the 1800’s expressed- Silence is a bit of heaven that comes down to earth. True words of wisdom.
2. Slumbering ego awakened by the dim-witted. To imply that every human being has an ego which is normally in slumber. But if the dim witted awakens my ego, I will wreak havoc. I will boast about my achievements, only when my ego is provoked.
3. The secret of success stays secret. To work harder than my competitors by not offering any information about my plans and finances, and that includes my extended family.
4. I will never second guess myself. I learnt after countless shortcomings to always trust my first guess, my second never ceases to fail me.
5. Don’t nightshade your troubles. If something is troubling me, I try to resolve it by daylight. I learnt to be direct and honest in my approach which usually hurts people’s feelings.. but that’s life.
6. Don’t trust a person who speak ill of their parents. I learnt not to trust those who speak unfavourably about their parents. Anyone who can steep low enough will steep lower to talk about you too.
7. People love you when you have a hole in your pocket. You’re popular when your guttering and resented when your governing. A handful of people will praise your success and the rest make tasteless judgements. The more money you have the less popular you become.
8. The more you give, the richer you become. I went through a phase in my life where I was bitter from a failed business dealing. I became greedier because I had to start from scratch again. My charitable habits became non-existent and my days became more difficult. One night, I came across a beautiful teenaged girl. She was begging for cab fare but no one stopped to offer. Some ignored her while some told her to get a job. To me she looked as if she had been raped. I asked her if she was OK, she replied “No, I’m not, I just want to go home”. I opened my purse and gave her everything in it, including change. She cried with joy and gave me a jittery hug. A few days later, I was cleaning out my wardrobe and I found $500 in one of my pockets but I don’t ever recall putting them there. They were heaven sent because I was short on cash.
9. Dare to take risks. Taking risks are challenging and mostly rewarding. Human failing is when you don’t take risks. Nothing can be achieved without a certain amount of daring to take the risks.
10. Those who seldom make mistakes are not knowledgeable. From past experiences, my greatest mentors were those who became successful after they survived a bankruptcy. I seek advice from those who take the stairs to get to the top. Those who take the lift instead are destined for failure because they haven’t struggled to get to the top. They have yet to make notable mistakes.
11. Trust your gut feeling. My first and purest intuition is always right.
12. Your mind has the power to change any negative situation to a positive one. Life is full of trials and tribulations. Negative energy makes me ill. I learnt to ignore society’s negativity. I’ll do what I want and no one can stop me. I learnt to turn a negative situation to a positive by one simple act, you fall, you pick yourself up and battle on.
13. Tell people what they want to hear, not what they need. It’s Self explanatory. Society has become sly, competitive and envious. They befriend you for the sole purpose of gaining your trust in hope to rid you of your pride and any source of serenity which thry crave. If they have set their mind on something absurd, I tend to agree with them. I’m vague in my approach and I will not compromise my loyalty for all the riches in the world. I let people believe what they want to believe. They’re belief has no relevance therefore I will not waste time convincing them otherwise.
14. You learn from the young and the old. I have learnt that the best lessons in life are from the innocent and the senile. The old may become senile but they’re very wise. Unlike today, their strength and wisdom is the product of countless adversities which they endured with limited resources. The old are exceptional savers and resourceful financial planners. They’re on top of the teacher tree, hence their wisdom should never be taken for granted, hence their advice is ageless.
15. Love the destitute and like the strong. Love is a powerful word with powerful meaning, but we tend to give it to the wrong people. I learnt the people who deserve my love are those who need it because they’ll benefit from it. The strong are confident, established and hard as nails. The strong deserves love but not like the destitute.
16. Life is short, be more selfless and enjoy it. I’ve learnt to enjoy my life before it’s too late. I sometimes question why I sacrificed so much. I could have avoided a lot of sadness and disappointment by not going out of my way to please others because they’ll never go out of their way to please me.
17. Stay cool and rule. I have had my fair share of confrontations. Exchange of harsh words left a bad taste under my tongue seeing that resolution was always a doubt in my mind. I hated myself for behaving in such an ugly manner. I now remain cool no matter how harsh the situation may be. In doing so, I gain the upper hand which strengthens my character and self worth.
18. Your best friend is your mum. No matter how difficult, how crazy, how senile or how cruel a mother may seem, she’ll always be there for you. There’s nothing like a mothers love, it’s unconditional and binding.
19. Multi-masked. A smart person stocks several masks for different situations. I have learnt a lot from past friendshios. The moment you let them see your true vulnerability, it’s out on the streets. I now guard my vulnerabilities behind a mask. It’s my obligation to protect myself from danger, but once in a while it doesn’t hurt to play with fire.
20. Don’t forget the loyal people in your life. I’m family orientated and a self confessed workaholic. I unintentionally get caught up in the battle field of life and I fail to touch base with the important people in my life. Loyalty is given to those who seek homage in my friendship. Loyal friends are those who keep rancor at bay and crush your haters without your knowledge. Those type of people need to stay in my life. They’re my backbone, my right arm and my sanity. I have learned that I can always make time for them, especially when it’s required